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Out of the blue
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“Life just doesn’t care about our aspirations, or sadness. It’s often random, and it’s often stupid and it’s often completely unexpected, and the closures and the epiphanies and revelations we end up receiving from life, begrudgingly, rarely turn out to be the ones we thought.” Khaled Hosseini, author of “The Kite Runner,” a heartbreakingly beautiful […]

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Collateral Damage
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Collateral damage: Injury inflicted on something other than an intended target; specifically civilian casualties of a military operation. As Hurricane Irma cut her deadly swath across the Caribbean and headed straight for south Florida, I was on high alert like those crazy storm chasers. Since I’m clear across the country, all wrapped up in the […]

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Latitude
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Latitude: scope for freedom of action or thought; synonyms –freedom, scope, leeway, space, breathing space, flexibility, liberty, independence, free rein, license, room to maneuver, elbow room, wiggle room, freedom of action, as in “she gave him a lot of latitude” Out last night to a delicious dinner at a favorite bistro with a delightful lesbian […]

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Uncharted
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“Go out on a limb. That’s where the fruit is.” Former President Jimmy Carter, our country’s 39th “You get what you settle for.” Thelma and Louise, two of my favorite gals on the big screen. I took a trip last summer to an Idaho resort town where I’d never been before, but a place that […]

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Boundaries
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Before my marriage imploded, I remember sitting in P.’s office with mr. invisible, and P. my therapist asking me, “So what is the line that can’t be crossed?” We had been discussing my husband’s hobby of going places on his computer that should have been off limits in any healthy relationship. On that particular day, […]
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Miss Kitten
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A few months after mr. invisible moved out of our home in the midwest for good, I headed to the desert to try to understand how my neat and tidy life came apart at the seams. The trek west had been a ritual of ours as a couple for many years, and as we’d pack […]
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Shape Shifting
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If asked to describe the shape of my life, I’d have to say it’s a bit like the Sawtooth Mountains that I saw for the first time last summer (while on a vacation with a man I’d met only once before in person–but that’s another gnarly topic for later). The Idaho Sawtooths are our country’s […]
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Road Signs
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In recent months I’ve talked to two women who are ending 30-year marriages–and whose husbands turned out to be in the same league as my ex, mr. invisible. I also have a gay friend who is divorcing his husband (partners for decades and married for five years) for some serious indiscretions. These mr. invisibles all […]
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Wabi-sabi
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Wabi-sabi is Japanese for perfect-imperfect: Rooted in Zen Buddhism, it refers to finding beauty in things that are imperfect, impermanent and incomplete. I’ve spent much of the last three years examining my imperfect life–one that I knew wasn’t perfect, but one that I’d convinced myself was content and fulfilling. Know what I mean? I’d given […]
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